Updated: 3 days ago
Addressing the "playing victim" accusation many women with darker features get thrown at them for calling others out for their colorist remarks.
First of all, I would like to start this out by saying that this 'airhead' mentality certainly doesn't apply to all those who call themselves 'Aryan', nor to all those who may like lighter features on women. This is simply a response to an accusation made against me of a 'victim complex'. I have been accused of this more than once, by our own men; for simply acknowledging some of the issues we have with this Aryan standard of beauty in the white community, that which has been ingrained in many of us, and how problematic it is to most of our women. And if you dare call people out on their disrespect towards you or have the courage to step out and talk about your struggles with this, you are either deemed as a SJW who is crying 'white (blonde) privilege' or someone with a 'victim complex'.
When I started to uplift dark porcelains I have been called out for being ‘default’, ‘mediocre’, ‘too bloody common’, ‘generic’, 'petty' or ‘boring to look at’ by both men and women. And why do they do this? It seems that our white community is a very competitive one. Yet I have gained almost 4000 followers this year alone on my Brunette Beauty page and group. That should tell you something. That should tell you that brunette white women do have fans from around the world, and they are just as amazing. We just need to get that revelation. So why should we think our beauty is less important than someone else’s? Because our hair color scheme is a little bit more widespread than others? And our skin is super pale? And there are people that don’t like it? This says nothing about us and everything about these naysayers. And often I have chosen to ignore some of these negative comments. But Here, I will be responding to the 'blonde privilege' comment I received earlier. On a side note, I see many brunette women who shy away from talking about this and are silent on the issue, and it isn't for no reason. Many of them don't want to come across as a woman who is insecure with her darker features or someone who is whiny or sensitive about not being preferred by colorist men or those they like. Many of them want to come across as a confident woman with dark features who are elegant and attractive. And that's how I see many brunette women counteract this. And it's totally understandable because they know if they say something when men make colorist remarks against them, they might come across as bitter and jealous. And none of them want that. Especially when they really aren't.
Nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent.
And there were times people had thrown this at me, out of the blue; for talking about things such as hair dye (when it didn't even cross my mind). But in my heart, I knew I had no reason to feel that way. And now that I have learned to cherish what I've been given, it really pains me to hear accusations like that thrown at me, suggesting that I should feel bitter, jealous, and angry. But I have no reason to be. And I'm certainly not unattractive and have not had a problem with attracting a good quality man. But I know if I even dare open my mouth about these colorist remarks made to me by these men who speak out against us, I am just 'boring headed', 'generic', or a 'SJW'. I automatically have a 'victim complex'.
I would also like to acknowledge that this certainly doesn't apply to all white women or all white men, but many of us have been conditioned to believe in this Aryan standard of beauty for all light features, and that they are superior. It is a declaration that only beauty can fall on people of these characteristics or traits. Whether you choose to recognize that or not, this stems from the Aryan religion, which has been heavily promoted in our culture for centuries. I do not condone this mindset, however; There are many that do. Many have been conditioned to believe in this beauty standard, even people from other cultures. Why is that? Read on.
There are many different types of beauty. One isn't more important than the other. And dark-porcelain beauty is just as important as any other, wouldn't you agree? But Europeans are a very diverse bunch, which is why Western society is so competitive. This blonde/brunette rivalry has been going on for a long time.
Let's explain further. As dark-porcelains, we do get flack from those Aryan airheads for our dark hair colors if we dare have the courage to step out and celebrate them. Meanwhile we also get the third degree from the anti-white haters for loving our skin. So we can see both sides of the argument, right in the comments below. Yikes! 👇🏻👇🏻👇🏻👇🏻
👆🏻👆🏻👆🏻👆🏻Here is a representation of someone who has an inferiority complex. As soon as they start comparing themselves to you to "prove" that they are better than you, you'll spot jealousy very easily. Why do I say this?
True confidence isn't "I'm better than you". True confidence is: "I have no need to compare myself to anyone else".
On the other hand, the guy commenting below stating "Blue eyes and blonde hair are superior" shows a superiority complex. This is something ingrained in many of our own, especially our women; due to the "all light features beauty standard" in our culture.
Below, we see two different points of view. One deeming fair skin to be prettier. The other demonizing a European woman for "cultural appropriation" for having too dark of a tan. How stupid.
I will have to hand it to you, tanned skin beauty has also been pushed in our culture as well. And would you know, many of our women have ventured to try and imitate this beauty standard. So what would you expect?
Meanwhile, the rest of the world spends billions a year on skin bleaching creams and lotions.
Why do you think this is? In non Western nations, tanned skin promotion is unprofitable. Why do you think fair skin is the “set beauty standard” by the beauty industry in places like Japan and India? It helps one to realize the agenda behind the "set beauty standard". So if most people within our cultural sphere are fair skinned, why doesn't the beauty industry promote fair skin as the beauty standard? Because that wouldn't make any money in profits. Same goes with the bleaching industry with the "fair hair beauty standard".
Since most white people (and people in general) have a shade of Eumelanin (from dark blonde to brown to black) in their hair, it would only be profitable to promote a light hair beauty standard to make sales. It’s all about profit, folks. So why not learn to cherish what you have been given? And the funny thing is, the moment you do; here comes the critics. Either way you just can't win can you?
I’ve been attacked by people of both Aryan and leftist ideas. These people who are subscribing to Aryan ideas are the second point of the double-edged sword destroying white people [leftists being the other].
Why do I make this statement?
I’ve been called generic, boring headed, and 'nothing special' for celebrating my hair color. I’ve been labeled as an Aryan airhead for loving my skin, too. What is up with people?
And how do some of our men respond when we confess these struggles?
Basically, this guy's point is that just because he didn't experience bias in the white community for his darker features, that nobody else could possibly have this struggle or disposition. His experience, however; is NOT objective. Everyone has different problems and insecurities. Everyone processes these things differently.
And why the negativity and comparison by others who wish to downplay us?
I used to take these criticisms as truth. Now I laugh because I have realized that my beauty type is just as important as anyone else’s.
We’re not comparing ourselves to anyone else. We’re just on twitter and FB celebrating what makes us unique. And despite the examples that I showed to him regarding this problem, he continues to revert to form.
And once again, this is a problem that they choose to ignore. They underestimate the impact some of this negativity towards us has had on us.
Basically, he is deeming his own experience as an objective reality for all, even for women like me, despite the fact that he is only speaking from a male perspective. He cannot fathom a woman struggling with insecurities because her beauty type is not what is being promoted as the 'beauty standard' in the cultural sphere that she is in. But what do I know, right? People like this annoy the hell out of me! I mean, guys like these who down play our struggles as if they don't exist pose a real problem. And ignoring the problem sure isn't going to fix it, either.
My struggle isn't invalidated by your lack of experience or disposition.
Don’t just assume you know what someone else has gone through. I'll save that for another blog.
Also, addressing the other thing he brought up: 'white privilege'. I think that's a little off the rails seeing this is heavily promoted by the left (and the Aryan far-right people). Non-white anti-whites deem us as more privileged because they honestly see us as the 'superior race', just as Aryanism declares. What else do you think they mean by 'privilege'? The idea of 'white privilege' has a shocking similarity with Aryanism which promotes all light features as 'superior'. Well what do you know? You would think these would be opposing views. Not in every aspect. On one side of the coin it is celebrated and the other side it is demonized (and anyone of European origins).
So here we go. I'm not sugar coating this.
I admit, we brunettes do get criticism. Not to the same degree that other people do, but we do get it. Does this mean we are claiming to be victims when we acknowledge this? Not necessarily.
And all the while they make accusations like this at women like me to shut them up. When in reality, the only thing women like me would like to see happen is for them to stop making colorist remarks against us when we seize a moment to stand proud of our differences. And yet I am seeing this happen all the time.
So how do others respond when they are deemed as boring or ugly?
Seeing how others respond to those who criticize their looks, wouldn't you think that it is also understandable for women like me to react to unfavorable criticism in such a way to these heady people who downplay ours? You would think that people would understand. I guess not.
So, what happens if we dare call these critics out for their disrespect? They will try to turn the table over on us and paint us the same way they do to SJWs who cry ‘white privilege’. So my next question is, why are they associating what I am saying with ‘privilege’? But not the people who are perpetuating a superiority complex?
I thought white privilege didn’t exist. But obviously you think it does since you brought it up. And why do so many non-white people think this way? Maybe it might be because of this superiority complex many of our people have grown accustomed to.
Comments such as:
"I have the good hair." “Sorry, blonde is better.”
“Red hair is rare. Therefore, it is superior” “Brunettes are a dime a dozen” “You’re Mediocre”
“Most men prefer what is rare and that is blondes and redheads”
“Get over yourself. You’re nothing special” “You’re petty” “You are generic” “You’re boring headed” “Default traits are not unique”
"Staying indoors and default traits are not cool."
"We can grow the hair they can't."
We all know the difference between showing pride in what has been gifted to you and you pointing it out as being an advantage over others. We hear you loud and clear when we see you going out of your way to prove that you are different and “unique” and in turn saying that Europeans with dark features and non-whites compared to you are just plain, boring, and uninteresting, and that there is ‘nothing special’ about them.
And honestly, if I were a woman with all light features, I would feel that way, too. Let’s just be honest. This is human nature.
These comments perpetuate the idea that they want some sort of advantage over people. Does it not? And the moment you try to call them out for that, you are a SJW? Oh the irony. You will instantly be met with comments such as:
“You are making yourself into a victim” “Why don’t you tell the blondes about how they have ‘privilege' and what a victim you are”. “I’m a brunet and I know this is bull@#%!”
So, why this response from our men when we call these people out for putting us down? And who wants to be a victim? Not me. And who are the real people promoting this idea of ‘white privilege’? Surely it’s not the people who have this superiority complex or perpetuate this need to feel superior over everyone else, is it? When you hear them brag about being ‘superior’ over others, and hear someone like me calling them out for it and in turn they tell us that we sound like SJWs, but also failing to call out these people for their haughty and high minded attitude? That is where I see the dishonesty. I'm not blaming them for this Aryan mindset that has been ingrained into their psyche. Just as I don’t blame extremely beautiful people (of any race) for using their looks to their advantage, I don’t blame these people, either.
We should never undervalue what we have just because others do.
So let me clarify, once again; why I believe this topic is important to discuss among white people. Because many of them either don’t see or don't understand the other side of the argument or refuse to admit to their superiority complexes, and how they are the ones perpetuating this idea of ‘white privilege’ more than anyone else by their haughtiness and attempt to prove they are superior.
Many of them will brag about being favored by some of our men, and men of other races because of their light features.
Don’t get me wrong. There is nothing wrong with celebrating your light features. But when you go so far as to say “Light hair is superior”, “I have the good hair” or demonstrate how you have an advantage that others don’t because of it, this perpetuates the idea that you have ‘privilege over others’ who don’t have them. This is why we must understand how this language is being perceived and interpreted by others who may not possess those traits. And honestly, if I were a dark girl hearing white people make these statements, I would feel the same way. Let's just be honest. And if you think you are superior, or say that you are, it indeed gives these people validation for their argument for ‘white privilege’.
White Privilege Definition:
Inherent advantages possessed by a white person on the basis of their race in a society characterized by racial inequality and injustice.
Smashing Aryanism and 'White Privilege'
Smashing the Aryan standard of beauty and the 'white privilege' concept all in one setting. Here, I will also be pointing out why redheads have an advantage over others in the press, even over blondes and brunettes in the white community! And it’s not for the reasons we think they do. Nope! It’s not because their red hair somehow magically grants them better opportunities or better men. Since brunettes marry more and have been chosen by many of our men, even princes and kings, that should tell you something. How can we say that they have it better, in light of that?
Is it not because they are the rarest? Or the lightest? Nope. There are people that will push this idea that they have more privilege because of their lightness. So do all light features truly give you more privilege, then? And do I have to be the rarest in order to be the most valuable person in society?? If yes, then we would also have to assume that those with the lightest features have the most privilege (or the most value). Let’s take Albinos, for example.
Facts about Albinism
Note, these are the people with no pigment in their eyes, skin or hair.
How common is albanism?
While numbers vary widely and no comprehensive studies have been conducted, it is reported that in North America and Europe, an estimate of 1 in every 17,000 to 20,000 people have albinism. 1 In Africa it is estimated that 1 in every 5,000 to 15,000 people have albinism with selected populations having estimates as high as 1 in 1,000. 2 In Tanzania where UTSS is based, the prevalence of albinism is estimated to be 1 in 1,400 and 1 in 19 carry the gene.3 This means that there are over 33,000 persons with albinism 4 in Tanzania, with a rate of more than 14 times that of North America & Europe.
People with Albinism are much less prominent than redheads. So why aren’t they favored above the rest? Let’s look at some of the reasons that this may be.
Albinism in different parts of the world
How people are treated in Tanzania, Africa:
"A few years ago there was a cluster of news specials on the atrocities in Tanzania with people who have albinism. There are still countless stories of albinos being hunted down and their limbs hacked off for sale to witch doctors. The fear and horror they live with is mind boggling and resonates with me at a very deep level."
How people with Albinism are treated in China.
"In China, although life is better in the urban centers, albinos are considered bad luck. I have heard it said that it’s not because of the albinism per se, but rather not being born “normal” and therefore forever ostracized in case their bad luck was contagious.
Because of this, albinos aren’t sent to school, struggle to find employment and many times end up blind due to poor vision care."
People with Albinism are rare, indeed. Yet when it comes to them, many of our people will tell them that they have a disorder or a disease. Having the lightest features may also mean that they are looked down upon in some cultures, or even hunted down and killed. So this throws ‘the lighter that you are the more privileged that you are’ argument out the window. People with Albinism have their disadvantages.
So how can you take pride in something that you inherited if you are constantly being told it is not worthy of being celebrated or passed down? Yet they are the absolute rarest occurrence in the world. And if the things that are rare are valued higher, why isn’t this coveted so much? Maybe it might be because this is how they are perceived in many cases. Why is that? Why isn't this promoted as the beauty ideal by Aryans themselves if it is the rarest? These people are beautiful. I see something unique and special about them, too.
In the midst of this, does rarity even matter when it comes to beauty? Because if it doesn’t fit the beauty ideal that is being promoted in the cultural sphere, then it’s not regarded as the standard of beauty whether it is or not.
Let’s look at some of the reasons why some beauty types are elevated over others.
The Beauty Industry & Aesthetics
So what has worked to influence our perception of beauty? It's come to a point where we should acknowledge that the constant media bombarding we're subjected to daily, with a very specific standard of beauty has left its indelible mark on our collective psyche, and that it's this social conditioning which drives a large part of what we find attractive, rather than the attractiveness being an intrinsic quality to that which we are appraising.
The last thing I want to seem like I'm doing is telling people that they're not allowed to have their own standards of what's commonly referred to on these boards as 'aesthetics'. You definitely are allowed that much. So let's make sure we're all on the same page regarding that.
It does, however, get too far when you begin to regard your own, individual standards of beauty as an objective benchmark. You become unable to appreciate how other people might have very different ideals of beauty, and thus you refuse to regard their astonishingly dissenting viewpoints as valid. Neander Thule doesn't realize standards of beauty are less universally objective, and more culturally ingrained.
Why do Europeans spend so much money on self-tanner when Asians Spend $20 BILLION A YEAR to be White?!
I’ll tell you why. Media influence!
If I took a woman from another culture, untouched by the media that has influenced us, slightly overweight, all dark features, completely no makeup, with wider noses, courser hair, deep dark skin tones and rounder faces, people who immersed into the Aryan beauty standard may not feel attracted to someone of such a description. But she was what the men from her culture were hot for and couldn't get enough of. Though an average Aryan wouldn't have ever approached her, a contemporary of hers might embrace her with open arms and put her on a pedestal.
This just goes to illustrate how malleable standards of beauty are.
There's a reason white people are widely regarded as a very aesthetic race, and the most aesthetic people of other races tend to have features one might associate with white people. This is less because of white people being objectively more beautiful, and more because of the promotion of the Aryan standard of beauty, which is widely promoted through the bleach industry which makes billions a year in profits.
If you want to make money, why not promote a beauty standard which is most difficult to achieve for most people? Something to think about.
This dominance in the media translates into significant cultural influence, and as such, it's white people who believe in this Aryan world view who end up setting these standards of beauty. Lo and behold, those standards are also understandably quite self-serving, and as such rather biased towards non-whites and whites who may have larger amounts of Eumelanin in their hair or darker eye colors. This is what's meant by Aryan beauty standards. He who controls the media, controls culture, and he who controls culture, also controls what's regarded as 'beautiful' within that cultural sphere. It goes without saying that the reach of the Western cultural sphere is, to date, all but unparalleled. The West has a foot-hold in almost every culture presently alive.
You might question the relevance of the example about the women, seeing as the circumstances since then have changed drastically, but its primary purpose was to demonstrate precisely how much most people tend to underestimate the power of cultural influence over what we regard as attractive.
We're an immensely social species, and with this comes the inevitability of the power of social cognition over us. Social conditioning has an extremely powerful hold over us; often to the point that we don't even realize its existence, and assume that our inclination to feel a certain way is due to an ingrained predilection, rather than one that was molded into us by society.
The problem with society's Aryan view of beauty
If you don't believe that beauty can fall on those with darker hair and eye colors as well as pale ones, then go to my brunette beauty page and see them for yourself. I'm not talking about your average looking women.
These aren't average everyday women, here. These are models who are exceptionally beautiful that often get overlooked because people are programmed to see beauty on light features first. You can't make this stuff up. And I have had an issue with this for a long time, as many other women with dark features I know.
I wan't brunette women to have their shine, too. That is why I created the 'Brunette Beauty' blog, page, and Youtube channel. If that is what you want to call 'victim mentality', that's fine by me. So be it.
The funny thing is, we also have blogs such as "How To Be a Redhead" and "Blondes Tavic Girls" that exclude us. And again, I have no problem with them being exclusive. But many European celebration pages and sites don't even present us in a positive light and sometimes go so far as to dis our brown features. Many of them will talk down on features such as brown eyes and brown hair on their blogs and social media and fan pages. I see it all the time. And who comes to our defense when this happens? And when we do call them out for it, we have a victim complex? We would like to be presented in a positive way. These men speak as if we shouldn't be allowed to counteract being excluded or put down. And yet nobody on these other pages are asked why they exclude us or talk down on our brown features. The post below is a perfect example of that. These posts just keep getting stupider by the day.
Here is another one which I countered on one of my earlier blogs. See here:
That's not true. Our hair color can also be found in chocolate. Ever wonder why? Brunettes are sweet and delicious! ;)
By far the stupidest post I've seen so far. 👇🏻👇🏻👇🏻👇🏻
In the white positive sphere, blonde jokes are spoken against and forbidden because it is degrading to our people. What about white people with brown eyes? And again, I see a double standard here. 👇🏻👇🏻👇🏻👇🏻
And why do they exclude us?
Ummm... you do know that Europeans also have brown features, right? Guess you didn't know that.
Nothing wrong with preserving light features. But how do they react when we post about brunette Europeans under posts like this to celebrate our hair colors, because we want to be included? This is a European page, right? Or is it an Aryan page?
Whether they dyed their hair or not is not the point. These are natural hair colors. They are a part of the brunette color scheme, and the Western color scheme, as they have dark hair colors and brown eyes, too. Why are you excluding them?
It seems that you want to prove that we don't belong to something. Would it bother you if I told you that we do? Why should I even have to explain this? 🤷 Beats me.
Funny how it is. These other women are allowed to get validation for their beauty, and to be included in the demographic. But brunettes are put down for their brown hair/eyes and literally asked why they want to share in that solidarity if they post about brunette beauty? People want to accuse us of wanting to prove that we belong to something? But aren't they doing the same thing? Aren't they trying to get outside validation from others? Of course.
These women love the attention they are getting. Who wouldn't? They love being elevated above everyone else. But I guarantee you, if it were these same women who were put down, undervalued and/or excluded for their hair or eye colors, they would be the ones complaining.
This is why I hate these posts that put down those with brown eyes or hair. Yet when we dare celebrate white people with brown eyes or various shades of brown hair colors, we are then asked: "Why did you feel the need to include them?" And they wonder why they hear women like us complaining about it. And when they do, they accuse us of having a 'victim mentality'.
Ever wonder why you don't see lighter women complaining in the same fashion? Well, consider the fact that they aren't the ones being downplayed here. Why in the world would these lighter women complain when they are the ones being put at the top? Notice that it is perfectly fine for them to get all of the spotlight, but it is wrong for us to want representation?
It's ok for them to feel 'superior', but its not ok for us to want a positive representation of us? That's why, many a time; we often stand alone. Because these Aryan minded people don't even think that we deserve it.
Also, we do get responses from some of these women as well. When you learn to recognize that this "Are you jealous?" question you get from some of them is nothing but a shaming tactic, to deflect from this whole issue and to sweep this under the rug. And many of them will be silent on this issue. And when you realize that it will make you want to be more vocal about it because you will realize that this is just a gas-lighting tactic. They want you to stop talking about it because you are calling them out for being colorist.
You're calling me a hater for pointing this out because you are comfortable with outshining me. You love feeling superior, and therefore; don't want equal representation.
Think about this, the only people who are ok with this are men who prefer lighter features on women and the women who benefit from this colorist Aryan standard of beauty in the white community.
They just want to shame you into silence because they don't want to talk about it. These lighter women who are put on a pedestal by both men and women, they love being there. And they aren't interested in sharing that with you, as women with darker features. This is why I encourage you not to let these people shame you into silence. I'm not suggesting that you feel bitter, angry, or to be hostile towards these women. But it sure is ok to want more representation, and a positive one. It's ok to be vocal in that.
People are not blind. People are not stupid. They know full well what is going on when you are attacked or put down. So why don't they bother to defend you when this happens? Why didn't anyone come to my defense? The response I get from these men are turning it around on me and telling me I'm being divisive for pointing this out? But this type of shaming is not? In addition, there are always those gingers that try to call attention to themselves under our posts. It never fails. They act as if they don't always get the love and promotion in the press and our men. Come on!
But are they complaining on platforms that present only women with all light features as to why brunette women are not included or represented in a positive way? Or Europeans with brown features? No, of course not. They love that type of thing. They enjoy being exclusive.
So when they see women like us setting up our own platforms, should they be surprised? We are allowed to feel some type of way about this. Period! I'm not about to let anyone talk down to me because of the way the good Lord made me, brown features and all, or let them shame me into a low self-esteem.
You can't make this stuff up, especially when you see that it's a worldwide problem, not just a white problem. The bleach industry makes billions in profits every year. And when you see that, you know it's a real problem.
And why do they acknowledge when other white women are being bullied for their red tresses or blonde locks and blue or green eyes by other people who don't have them?
And they are so quick to jump at the defense of them when they are discriminated against, persecuted, or hated on. But when it comes to us, it seems that when we speak about how we are put down because of our brown features, we're just jealous bitter women to them? We're just SJWs crying 'blonde privilege'? These arguments are pretty dumb to me.
So to the men (or women) who are making these arguments, when you come to their rescue when they are put down and bullied for their looks, but you don't do the same for us? You are perpetuating the problem. And you don't want to acknowledge the problem, and if you do see it, you still don't want to fix it.
For example: these same men who criticize our dark features also get salty or critical when women with dark features win beauty pageants.
As we can see here, darker women receive the brunt of colorist bias due to this Aryan mindset:
He agrees with my comment? Obviously there is a misunderstanding here. When I stated "examples of things that cannot be compared" I was referring to his comparison to women with dark features winning pageants to degeneracy. It is not the same, nor can it be defined as such. His other statement suggests that this is an attempt "to attack the foundation of beauty itself" by making things appear equitable when not. Not only is this blatant disrespect to darker women, but it is also in your face disrespect to all women with darker features. His statement suggests that the "foundation of beauty" can only be centered around the core value of Aryanism, for all light features.
Lastly, he states that "this is an obvious move to alleviate social pressures building in a fragmented society". He claims that this is as a result of "social conditioning". Yet we have been "socially conditioned" to believe in and conform to this Aryan standard of beauty for decades. Brunette women are seeing this, and many of them are taking it to heart, dying their hair, or becoming self-hating. We've had it pushed down our throats for decades, and all the while these colorist men act so surprised when women with dark features jump in and start competing (with their natural look), and win in spite of the 'social conditioning'. This takes courage! And I admire their courage. These women are beautiful and are every bit deserving of praise. And it inspires me to do the same.
But what about jealous brunette women? Some may point out that: "There are envious brunette women who complain about this colorist bias, complain about the lack of attention they get from men, but don't see beauty in themselves". Or they may highlight those who hate on posts celebrating blondes and equate it with Nazism. But that can also be directly paralleled to women with all light features, who think they are superior; complaining about people hating on them for having all light features, or feeling jealous when they see brunette women being celebrated, and in turn; try to call attention to themselves under our posts.
If you know that beautiful things don’t need to call for attention, you would see no need to do this for outside validation. This is a sign of a lack of confidence in itself. But nobody points that out, though. There is legitimate criticism on both sides of the argument. But I just see how the darker women get the unfavorable criticism no matter how attractive they are.
So lets keep it real, ladies. If they want to call you out on your 'victim complex' or your 'inferiority complex' for pointing these things out, call them out on their 'superiority complex'. This is about positive representation, validation, and to be valued like other women are valued. We want it just as much as other women do. And if it were them being put down, they would be the ones complaining about bias. Let's not be stupid about this.
What must we do?
Create our own beauty standard. Promote it. Flaunt it! Own it!
For example, since redheads are promoted as the beauty standard in our culture (and those with all light features), many of them internalize this superiority complex. And who wouldn’t? I certainly would if I were being promoted as the beauty standard in my culture. Wouldn’t you? Of course you would. Anybody would. Let’s just be honest, it’s human nature. And what do they do? We see them write endless blogs/books/songs, make movies, and dedicate entire magazines, marches, festivals, and days to celebrating their beauty type. So why don’t we do the same thing for us? Because we’ve been conditioned to believe that we must fit into this mold in order to be valued.
Do you know the real reason why they have this advantage in our culture? It’s not because their hair color or lightness magically gives them that advantage. Nope! It’s because they are the ones being promoted as the 'standard of beauty' in our culture. They already have the outside validation they need to learn to be confident and appreciate/love/and take pride in what had been gifted to them.
This may seem like an unfair advantage, but that doesn't mean we can't win with our natural beauty, just as they do. They are doing what we should be doing. That is why they have the advantage in the media and in real time.
And to all of you who may not see this, where are all the brunette dark-porcelain celebration days? Songs? Books? Festivals? Events? Parades? Or blogs centered around women (and men) who look like us? Unfortunately, there aren’t very many, if there are. And many brunette women are afraid to step out or admit that they have been conditioned to believe that these things are not worth it, and that they must change themselves in order to fit the mold of the beauty standard promoted within the cultural sphere.
Some would suggest that a brunette girl pride parade or celebration day won’t change anything. This isn’t in an attempt to change the way the world contemplates us. That would not be a sensible objective and I don’t want to imagine that it would be. But it would definitely change the way we see ourselves and how we are perceived in the cultural sphere. It may also give us that advantage what we want. And what a wake up call that would be. We would then realize that being a dark-porcelain is not only an ok thing, but a beautiful thing.
Yes, we will get those naysayers that say: "Sorry, blondes/reds are better." We get it. There are people who don’t like our hair. But there are also people that do.
Can you imagine if I wasted all my precious time trying to prove myself to the whole world and to make sure everyone liked me? Before stepping out and celebrating my differences? Please, for the love or God, accept that not everyone is going to like you. That's ok! Not everyone loves brunettes. That doesn't mean they are not absolutely AMAZING!
This isn’t about changing other people’s minds who don’t like you. It’s a declaration that our beauty type is just as important as anyone else’s. And we matter, too.
A brunette white girl pride parade would only mean, “I’m like this. I love myself like this. And I won’t dye my hair or get a tan just to fit the pattern.”
– So ‘Brunettes, Stop Letting Others Outshine You!’ Be authentic. Celebrate your differences. They are no less worthy!
The sooner you stop craving everyone's approval, the sooner you'll become comfortable with stepping out and being completely authentic. So stand proud of what has been gifted to you, just as they do. And, for the record, you can't have true confidence without authenticity.
So, does white privilege truly exist? Does blonde/redhead privilege truly exist? Or is it only a mindset that is promoted through the media? Through people's opinions? Therefore ingraining the idea that beauty only falls upon those of lighter features and upholds that belief as an objective reality?
And who is really promoting this idea of ‘white privilege’? Is it really the those who are merely calling people out for their ‘superiority complexes’? Or is it the people who blatantly state that they are superior over others because of their lighter aspects? Although many are in denial of it, this is nothing short of a mindset that has been ingrained in us by those who control the narrative in our Western society. And they most certainly do if they demonstrate how they think they are superior or better than other people because of their light features. That includes us.
This idea of ‘white privilege’ and the ‘Aryan superiority’ value system go hand in hand. They both express this idea that lighter features grant you privilege or superiority over others. Except one demonizes it and the other celebrates it.
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